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Brains and Science

Chapter 7 – Heart Meets Head

October 19, 2018 By Geeta

What Ramki had to say…

How emotions are neglected is beautifully brought out with the salesman example. I have come across another great example in the following story.

A wake up call with a twist! Orlando Marriott in Florida. 7 o’clock wake up call.

‘Good morning Dr. B, it’s seven o’clock,’ caller says. ‘It’s going to be 75 degrees here today, but the computer says you’re leaving. Where are you going?’

‘New York City’, B said.

‘New York City? Let me see what the weather report in the paper says Oh dear. It’s gonna be 40 degrees and raining in New York. Couldn’t you stay another day?’

B asked for the woman’s name and was told it was Juanita.

Next was a speaking engagement in Orlando and B found he was booked into a different hotel.

His reaction: ‘But, I want to be in the Marriott, so I can speak to Juanita in the morning!’

Isn’t that WOW!

It’s not the 7 star service or size of room or the bed or the food or any of the hundred other things here –but the human approach of a person in a call centre. I tell this story to emphasize how every employee at every level is important and can make the business a success!

  1. Using your head and heart together – I recall a real story Chairman of a Company in Chennai told me. He was doing trekking in African Jungle with a forest ranger (actually one is not supposed to do that – they say always be in a vehicle as animals think the vehicle is bigger than them and avoid them; if you are on foot, you are another breakfast, lunch or dinner item depending on time or enemy!) They came across a lone tusker which is very dangerous. In the resultant confusion the team got separated and the ranger was with one of the groups. The elephant charged the other group of people where our friend was. The ranger suddenly came in between the charging elephant and the group of people it was charging. He waved the two sticks he had above his head creating an impression he was huge. The elephant stopped in its tracks and stomped the earth and trumpeted taking stock of the situation. He stood his ground and it backed off. Later on, he told the people he had heard that such a thing can make the elephant stop/back off as it gets confused about the real size of the person. Here was a person using his head and heart together (he felt he was responsible for their welfare, he had his knowledge and the guts) and took a brave split second decision which saved many lives. This may not be in same league as what you have written but gives a different perspective!
  2. Controlling anger – one important thing I tell my people is: ‘if you are angry and have drafted a mail in anger don’t send it – save it to drafts and look at it later – say after 4 hours – when you are more calm and composed; you will invariably make changes to the draft!’ (maybe even delete it).
  3. ‘When you say certain things you will get certain responses.’ I recall what I read about Benjamin Franklin – a rare combination of a good scientist and good businessman. If he is in a meeting and offers some good advice and some one else offers a stupid alternative, he will handle it very well. He will not put down that person or his idea. He will say “That’s a very good idea; but may be it won’t work here because…; what do you think?” and put it forth nicely. This way he got his thing done without offending any body; I am sure that other guy not even realizing his idea got shot down, will go and brag to his wife or friend that Benjamin said his idea was very good!
  4. ‘You don’t need a reason to feel happy’; Jaggi Vasudev has a similar take; he says when you get up in the morning rejoice saying ‘I am alive’; considering many people die every day, is it not an achievement to be just alive! Wonderful way to be happy without a reason!
  5. Your suggestions like new skills, Somatic, dance, music, yoga all are wonderful.
  6. Best sales person – I have a story for that too! How does the best sales person in USA sell cars? Jerry Griffin is one of the best car salesmen in U.S.A .There was nothing he would not do for a customer. One day a company sent out bid sheets to all car dealers asking for prices. All dealers sent in bids. Jerry sent excellent cars to the company parking lot and asked them to choose! He knew what the client wanted and acted on it. He was not planning to sell, preparing to sell, hoping to sell, he just sold and gave a choice also to the customer!’

Filed Under: Brains and Science, Emotions

Chapter 5 – Beyond Overwhelm

October 5, 2018 By Geeta

Week 5 and what’s Ramki saying… ????

  1. ‘True time management has become a life skill.’ With today’s explosion of data and information one can go mad if one does not manage time and have focus.
  2. You have touched all aspects of good time management – boosting self-esteem; less stress; more productivity; more learning opportunities; more introspection time;
  3. Charles Darwin said: ‘A man who dares to waste one hour of time, has not discovered the value of life.’
  4. Many people have not learnt the art of saying no. That is a pity. Not only do they exhaust themselves, they also earn a bad name for not keeping up their words!
  5. Prioritizing based on likes is something many of us do! It becomes a habit! Your suggestion has to be implemented by all to save time and be productive.
  6. Stress – some time back I listened to a HBR idea cast ‘Handling stress in the moment’ – in it HBR contributing editor Amy Gallo discusses the best tactics to recognize, react to, and recover from stressful situations. She’s a contributor to the HBR guide to managing stress at work. You may want to listen to it/read the related HBR article.
  7. Morning before school stress – reminded me of a story on Toyota’s Five why’s and how a lady found the solution to her life problems (why the family can’t have dinner together) asking the question why –five times -like Toyota does to solve any problem. Read it here: https://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2016/03/10/how-asking-5-questions-allowed-me-to-eat-dinner-with-my-kids/ ** on parenting – see below
  8. Financial needs are limitless – how true! Scriptures say desire is like ghee poured on fire; the more ghee you pour, the more ghee the fire wants! Sense objects have 3 defects – dukhamisritattvam, athriptikaratvam, bandakatvam (sure of leading to sorrow, insatiabe – being never fully satisfied, leading to bondage – may God pardon my poor translation!)
  9. Looking inward is really the solution to move forward. Essence of Vedanta.
  10. Spend some time with Nature – it works very well for me; I like to take my walks in parks; and after the walk just spend 5 minutes watching the trees, the flowers, the wind , the birds, the squirrel and listening to the nature’s sounds – it is so rejuvenating! (Yesterday I and my daughter took a walk in an estate in Coonoor and I did this morning too – it was a sublime experience! Imagine starting the day with a Rainbow and a Golden sun!)
  11. Mindfulness is important – Swami Paraarthananda used to say about meditation – it should not be ‘mouth chanting and mind ranting’!
  12. TV serials – yes some of them so absorbing it is difficult not to watch-get hooked – I make it a point to see ‘only on weekends’; actually it heightens the suspense and that is good! I watched serials in Nettflix like ‘Designated survivor’; (Thanks to Vardu) ; ‘Suits’; ‘Big bang theory’; one which was totally gripping (unputdownable as they say for books) was the ‘Money Heist’ a Spanish serial with English sub titles–it was awesome. ‘Breathe’ in Amazon Prime was good too.
  13. All 3 action points are very useful. 30 minutes a week, planning 4 boxes with family and adding ‘me-time’. Talking of me-time equivalent, Gita 13th chapter Verse 8-12 (Amanitvam, Adambitvam…) while talking of qualities of Gnani includes ‘an inclination for solitary places and an aversion for mundane society’.

**

On Children
Kahlil Gibran

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.

**

Filed Under: Body and Language, Brains and Science

Chapter 4 – Unlocking Success

September 28, 2018 By Geeta

Ramki’s Input: Week 4

  1. It was nice to read about Sri. Sivaswamy the founder of Transworld; like all founder’s stories it is so inspiring. I think other than Charles Kettering there was no person who was (nearly) blind who built a business empire!
  2. Dreaming BIG – Goddess Namakkal gave Ramanujam complex math formulae in his dreams; Einstein is supposed to have discovered the principle of relativity after a dream. For some dreaming big comes naturally; some have to take efforts to dream! Our Scriptures talk a lot about Svapna –dreams and compare it to life itself which is a larger longer dream!
  3. Cutting your goals into small measurable ones and taking baby steps; I love this. I call this doing things in ‘bitable chunks’; for example- I started writing about each chapter of this book; if I had decided to write the whole thing in one shot, I probably would not even have started!
  4. My regimen for walking minimum 10k steps a day is a little severe; instead of rewarding myself for achieving it, I punish myself; if without cause (which I document) I do not walk, I need to walk double the gap on Sunday! It works!
  5. I learnt now only body has 25000 genes and about Epigenetics; I would have expected much more numbers considering all the varieties of humans; incredible what these 25k genes do to us!!
  6. Food – Gita describes how food affects Satvic / Rajasic/ Tamasic qualities in people. ‘You are what you eat!’
  7. The picture for ‘Dream and it is yours’ is beautiful and very apt! I do not know how many people pause to understand what it says!
  8. The Quadrants is a very practical way of prioritizing your things; I need to divide by ‘to do list’ into quadrants!

Filed Under: Brains and Science, Zen Success

Chapter 2 – No Age to Change

September 14, 2018 By Geeta

Hi again. It is week 2.

Ready for Ramki’s gyan on Chapter 2?

No Age to Change:-

And I quote…

  1. Yes, age is but a Number!
  2. I always quote Fauja Singh when I am on the subject of age; there were two more such people who took to running very late in their life and ran marathons –Gladys Burrill of Hawaii and Srikrishna Deshpande. Like Fauja they started late and ran marathons in their 90’s! and there is this lady from Punjab who is 101 (Man Kaur -Miracle from Chandigarh) and inspired her son 79 to start running- they both run now!
  3. People spend 95% of time assessing their past and thinking about fear of future uncertainties.’ Very true. This message is strewn all over the scriptures. Few examples are given below.
  4. Viveka Choodamani exhorts us to ‘convert worry time into medication time!’ Bhagvad Gita says: ‘No event deserves sorrow as response!’; Kaivalya Upanishad says: ‘Two powerful expressions of Samsara are: 1) Regret for the past; 2) Anxiety and fear regarding future. True knowledge of God will remove them.’
  5. ‘Humans have survived through ages by adapting.’ A beautiful quote I like on adaptation is :’I can’t change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination’ by Jimmy Dean.
  6. Charles Darwin said: ‘It is not the strongest or fastest which survive; it’s those most adaptable to change.’
  7. ‘Don’t be afraid to try new things and ideas’; I love this and practice this. I have taken up learning Sanskrit at age 65 as you suggest at end of this chapter; believe me it is tough! Last month I and my daughter went to Bir Billing in HP and did Para Gliding from a height of 7500 ft (of course Tandem) –supposed to be second highest spot in the world!
  8. ‘10 minutes breathing morning and evening’; you know of course, Sandhya Vandana prayer has Pranayama which just does that. Three times a day. Of course many of us do not do it or do it without the breathing part; I do Yoga for 15 minutes on most days. The age old practices all had meaning.
  9. The grandmother story touched me; I was reminded of Vaidehi’s grandmother who passed away a year back. She was 101! She had 4 sisters and 2 of them lived to 100! The secret of their century? They worked hard in villages for many years. The kitchen was their Gym! They saw lot of change and adapted. Took what life threw at them with a smile and grit. They loved their families totally. They did their stuff whether it was rain or sunshine. They never expected much in return. They lived happily and made others happy! I told this story in TW meeting in Dubai and said a company can also live a hundred years if it is resilient to change!

The messages I loved in this part:

  1. Even if you decide not to act it is a form of action! (But sometimes even that is a problem; I read a Newton’s law of Internet ‘for every action there is an unequal and opposite over reaction!’- when PM does not talk opposition wants to know why he is not talking!)
  2. Brain needs to be exercised.
  3. Form habits by using brain’s natural capabilities.
  4. Mistakes help to point out new opportunities.
  5. When there is less stress you get more time.

More coming up…next week… TATA until then…

Filed Under: Body and Language, Brains and Science

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