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Period Leave

September 12, 2020 By Geeta

The 21st century woman is an empowered, independent woman who stands shoulder to shoulder with the men at her workplace. Yet workplace discrimination and pay gap issues are a real thing even today. In such an atmosphere, menstrual leave is a very complex issue with polarizing views. For an article on the same by Makers India , I present my views on the topic.

https://in.makers.yahoo.com/is-it-hypocrisy-to-ask-for-a-period-leave-women-take-on-zomatos-polarising-new-policy-053311689.html

Is It Hypocrisy To Ask For A ‘Period Leave’? Women Take on Zomato’s Polarising New Policy

Unsurprisingly, the ‘period leave’ debate has evoked mixed reactions from employers and employees in India. The conversation came to light after Indian foodtech unicorn Zomato announced that it has decided to grant 10 days of paid leave to women and transgender people for their periods.

Soon, people (with and without uteruses) across social media jumped in to share their opinion, which ranged from why this move is the greatest idea ever to why it could lead to even fewer women in the workforce

“How many times have you had to send a message to your team saying “unwell today – taking the day off” and having to answer concerned questions about your health with a feeble “stomach upset/weakness, etc.” when you really wanted to say “on my period, terrible cramps – need a heating pad, some chocolate, and a lot of green tea (or something stronger) so I’m taking the day off”?,” Zomato’s Founder and CEO Deepinder Goyal wrote in a note addressed to its employees.

He continued, “At Zomato, we want to foster a culture of trust, truth, and acceptance. Starting today, all women (including transgender people) at Zomato can avail up to 10 days of period leaves in a year.”

The announcement instantly stirred a social media storm, with people from all sectors weighing in on the new policy. While many women’s rights activists and health care professionals hailed the policy, calling it “long overdue”, many were of the opinion that the move could be more regressive than progressive.

Most women who expressed doubts were concerned that this policy might further deepen the existing gender gap in the workforce, sparking hiring bias, lesser pay, and slower promotions for women.

MAKERS India reached out to some women to understand what they think.

“I do not think the policy as a blanket is a good move,” says Dr Sejal Ajmera, Senior Gynaecologist and Director, Indian Academy of Vaginal Aesthetics, “For years, we have been trying to bust period myths, and prove that women are fully capable of giving their complete potential physically and mentally during the periods. There is no need for isolation.”

According to the Mumbai-based gynaecologist, this move could push women back into the dated thought process.

“In the long run, we shall get into hiring bias, lesser pay, slower promotions etc.,” she adds.

But it’s not all downhill

While Sejal is wary of the efficacy of the ‘period policy’ – worried that it might worsen the workplace biases – she is hopeful that the move might normalise periods and abolish the stigmas surrounding menstruation, still a tabooed topic in India.

“I think one thing this will help with is increasing comfort around the talks about periods, which is such a taboo,” she says.

Menstruation and menstrual hygiene, despite all attempts in recent times to start a dialogue and spread awareness, has remained a closed-door conversation in India. And due to the stigma and an obvious shame attached to it, women and transgender people have often shied away from talking openly about their periods or the dreaded PMS (Pre-Menstrual Syndrome). 

The truth is, painful periods, also known as dysmenorrhea, is real. It affects nearly 20 percent of women in the world, with menstrual cramps so severe that it can interfere with everyday activities, according to the American Academy of Family Physicians.

There’s also proof that painful periods – compared famously to heart-attack like symptoms – could impact productivity adversely. According to a study by the British Medical Journal, due to extreme period pains, a woman loses at least nine productive days on an average, every year. So, those complaints of period cramps are not really “dramatic” and have nothing to do with a lower threshold for pain.

In this context, Zomato’s period policy comes as a breather from the unnecessary humiliation and stigma.

“Women are uncomfortable talking about periods with their own family members, pharmacies are still packing the [feminine hygiene] products in brown paper, and everything is so hush hush about the menstrual cycle,” explains Sejal, “This will help men and women deal with and accept the fact that half of the population has periods, can have problems with it, and we need to deal with it together.”

She further opines, “We should make our workplaces “period sensitive”, where an AFAB (assigned female gender at birth) can be comfortable during her periods, and talking about them.”

What about equal pay for equal work?

One of the striking reactions to Zomato’s ‘period leave’ was, surprisingly, from celebrated journalist Barkha Dutt, who tweeted, “Sorry Zomato, as woke as your decision on #PeriodLeave is, this is exactly what ghettoizes women and strengthens biological determinism. We cannot want to join the infantry, report war, fly fighter jets, go into space, want no exceptionalism and want period leave. PLEASE. (sic)”

This is one of the strongest arguments against paid period leaves — the fear that the policy might hinder the progress on ‘equal pay for equal work’.

On this, Malini Agarwal, Founder of MissMalini and Malini’s Girl Tribe, presents a different argument. She says, “I think there are different layers to this.”

“Equal pay for equal work is a much larger issue. I don’t think taking a day or two off because you have period pains justifies the kind of wage gap that exists,” she continues, “Women are more than willing to make up for the time that they might have taken off because of period pain by working twice as hard on the weekend or doing extra hours. There shouldn’t be a wage difference because of this.”

In Malini’s opinion, to have a balanced discussion on ‘period leave’, we have to discuss, “Why do women have periods?” And biologically speaking, women have periods so they can give birth and raise a child. So, men also have to be on board with this, argues the author-entrepreneur.

“Just because they are not having the baby themselves or having the period themselves, does not exonerate them from the responsibility that women have to go through,” she adds.

Education is key to the period debate

Historically and culturally, menstruation has been a subject of social taboo. According to Geeta Ramakrishnan, Ontological Coach and author of The Game of Change: My Zen Steps to Unleash Success, Balance and Happiness, education around

this subject can help people positively reorient the way they perceive periods rather than shy away from what they see as an uncomfortable topic.

“Yes, there are days with cramps, discomfort, and emotional spurts. Some may even call for a day off,” she shares. But when it comes to instituting a policy of paid leaves, Geeta explains that the move could “negatively impact women with a perception of weakness and liability”.

“A more effective and beneficial way going forward could be a mindset shift, encouraging open discussions around the challenges women face at the workplace and addressing them,” adds the author.

Sejal too believes that instead of an institutionalised policy, open discussion and dialogue need to be fostered. She says people need to talk about “pain, PMS, and common disorders like PCOS, fibroid, endometriosis, etc., which make this time difficult”.

“Hopefully then,” quips the gynaecologist, “We shall be able to talk about periods similar to ‘hey, I had a fever or a dentist visit or a twisted leg’.”

Filed Under: Body and Language, Zen Success Tagged With: #menstrualleave, #womenempowerment

Lord Ganesh

September 12, 2020 By Geeta

Lord Ganesh with his elephant head symbolizes awareness and focusing on this energy with the intend helps discriminate ego from self. In that sense, he is a lord of removal of obstacles. You can take it literally or in a philosophical sense, and it can work both ways. It is a matter of perception.

Ganesh Chaturti, like all Indian festivals follow the moon calendar and falls on the 4 th day of new moon in the month of Sharavan month.

On this occasion of Ganesh Chaturti I want to wash everyone more awareness, more happiness and peace!

Filed Under: Zen Success Tagged With: #festival

Coaching VS Counseling

September 7, 2020 By Geeta

In this extensive article for Medium, I map out the difference between coaching and counseling, the core essence of these two words, along with the approach followed by the two practices. Both help us brighten our outlook towards the world, and teach us how to deal with essential parts of our inner lives.

https://medium.com/@tejali/ever-wondered-what-is-the-difference-between-coaching-and-counseling-here-are-four-of-them-aac56739a10

Ever wondered what is the difference between coaching and counseling? Here are four of them

Coaching and counseling, both germinate with the same premise. The presumption for both will always remain that every individual undergoes pain in their life in some form or the other. And that many individuals do not go to the bottom of the core problem and rather live with the wound unhealed — raw or camouflaged. This happens more unconsciously and many accept their problem as part of life and do not feel the need to seek help. Sometimes these often recurring problems are so entrenched into their daily way of living, that it seems normal. This is mainly due to the lack of awareness on what counseling and coaching are and what it has to offers and how it can help people. Some people also live in denial and do not want to accept they have a problem. The social stigma and acceptance level of going to a counselor or a coach, let alone a psychologist or a psychiatric is still very negative. This can lead to self-sabotage of some kind. At some point in their life, to desire a different result, they must allow themselves to become vulnerable, to seek help. After all, everything you want is on the other side of fear, as aptly said by Jack Canfield, an American author and motivational speaker who co-authored the Chicken Soup for the Soul series.

Mental illness like prolonged bouts of feeling sad or depressed for no apparent reason, where going through with your day to day activities becomes a challenge, or feeling suicidal requires immediate help and clinical treatment. On the other hand if you are surrounded with stress and don’t know how to handle it, like un-reconcilable differences or conflict in a relationship or at work, you feel stuck in life, you lack motivation and don’t know what the next better step in life is, or you are curious and want some help with introspecting life, what do you do? If you do decide to step out and seek help to help, would you go to a counselor or a life coach? The biggest difference in coaching and counseling is the difference in approaches. Life coaches focus on creating a new life path to achieve certain goals. They help you introspect and help you find your solutions. They focus on the now and what next. Whereas counselors focus on specific problems in hand and look into emotional resolutions to past problems to move forward, finding solutions to those specific problems, while making ‘healing’ as one of the main objectives. One must be aware of the many areas of overlap between these above methods of seeking help.

Let us explore more on the differences between coaching and counseling

Coaching helps you take action and Counseling enables you to cope\

You seek a life coach when you are surrounded with stress, feel stuck in life with a problem or an issue, not knowing how to handle it and feel frustrated in life, you have low self-confidence, you need motivation, you need to be a better version of yourself and need that push, you need help to reflect your next step, you are unhappy and unsatisfied in your job and maybe want to change your job or your profession, you are feeling low, you have a relationship issues, you want a better work-life balance, you want to improve your health but don’t know the next step and you need someone to handhold you, you procrastinate and waste time and need help in planning and organizing your life better.

Coaches focus on introspection and are action-oriented when it comes to resolving the issue. They believe in giving the clients problem-solving skills rather than specific solutions to a problem. It helps the client handle and successfully adapt to any other situation and stress the client may face in the future. They work with you to identify the problem, set goals to resolve the problems and create a path to achieve the goals.

Some situations which can help by going to a counselor are when you have addiction issues like smoking, alcohol, substance abuse, eating disorders like excessive eating or anorexia, physical or verbal abusive behavior, any phobias like fear of water or crowded places, feeling frustrated with others, suffered a traumatic experience, maybe a bereavement, or sometimes you are just feeling demotivated. Counselors encourage their clients to talk about their problems and help them cope with the problems that they are facing by finding solutions to those problems. They take you to your past, delve in the emotional turmoil, looking for links and solutions to your issues. Healing forms a big part of finding solutions. They also work with other coping mechanisms like communication skills, group support, and therapy to get better solutions for the problems at hand. This enables clients to either reduce or tolerate the stress or conflict in their lives. Broadly there are two types of coping mechanisms: active and avoidant. Counselors also guide clients on using adaptive coping mechanisms such as support, relaxation, physical activity or humour.

Feeling and thinking

A life coach assists one in thinking and introspection. And thinking is hard! This by itself is challenging. Thinking is encouraged to overcome a situation and to optimize potential. Counselors help one realize the deepest of the feelings. They support one with a lot of understanding and help one stay at peace.

Goal-centric vis-à-vis clarity-centric

Coaches are trained to help one see clearly where one is today and then move towards the goals. Counselors create a safe and supportive space to find out where one is tuck in their life and not able to liberate themselves.

Training and certification

Counselors have various master’s and doctorate degrees and they are licensed by their respective states too. Coaches obtain certification through an accredited program like the International Coaching Federation and there are no degree requirements. Though coaching training does consist of several weekends of in-person training along with online modules. Case studies are submitted for review. Counselors in the UK have extensive training in human emotions and thinking, followed by being a supervised trainee. However, anyone can legally designate themselves as a counselor or a coach in the UK. This is different in the United States, where it is not legal to call oneself a counselor without recognised training. In India, most counselors have a background in psychology. Hence it is important to ask one’s coach or counselor about their training.

We would also like to cover a few myths on this subject:

Myth 1

Coaching only focuses on the present and the future. Counseling exclusively focuses on the past.

Myth 2

Counselors offer advice and on what to do, whereas, coaches do not.

Summary:

Coaching helps people achieve their goals. The basic presumption itself of coaching is that coaching clients are in a healthy mental and physical space and are prepared to receive guidance and direction on how to achieve their goals. And hence the work involved is on getting inspired and motivated on planning, changing and updating.

Counselors create safe and supportive spaces so that one can explore questions like ‘where one is stuck’, ‘who one really is’ and ‘how to cope up with what one is facing in life’. Counselors help you identify problems and act as a solid support system to assist you in gaining strength.

Filed Under: Zen Success Tagged With: #coaching, #success

Parenting

August 26, 2020 By Geeta

The joy of being a parent is something that cannot be explained but needs to be experienced. But it is also something that seriously requires your time, financial, physical and emotional commitment. My article in Femina lists down some of the ways in which you can manage your energies as a parent!

https://m.femina.in/relationships/parenting/managing-your-energy-as-a-parent-166673-4.html?fbclid=IwAR3yWdvigpIbIQRLsk6Nc6cbPU8lT_7SkxInYMzExh4xwQiUprWzd9Xh_dY

Being a perfect parent is a myth. Yet this is a constant endeavour as parents. To begin with, the decision to be a parent entails enormous responsibilities. As prospective parents, you need to give serious thought to the time, financial, physical and emotional commitment. Yet sometimes too many thoughts, ifs and buts, am I capable, and can we afford, does not work either. The joy of being a parent is something that cannot be explained but need to be experienced. You can never be prepared enough when your bundle of joy arrives and turns your world upside down.

With young children, you need to be high energy super-parents. You have to multitask, and be there for them and somehow magically manage your work, find time for yourself, your relationship and your social life. Young children depend on you for their physical needs and emotional support. It is worth investing in getting a perfect time management routine in place, with both parents chipping in.

Despite this juggling, often parents need some help and support. Enrolling the grandparents and friends or outsourcing help is usually a win-win formula. It can give you, as a parent, some free time for each other, to gather your sometimes chaotic and fast-paced life. This allows you to be fully available as parents, where you are more fun to be with rather than be stressed and in an angry mood.

When you are with your children, give them your 100 per cent attention. By attending office calls during family time, you are unconsciously sending the message that they are less important to you, while ironically, you are working for your family. The best parts of your childhood are not those expensive gifts your parents gave you; it is the time you spent together, the times you laughed and played together. Wouldn’t you want to provide the same to your children?\

If your life is more organised and disciplined, your children learn by example. Co-create the rules and boundaries together, enrolling the children in the process. Define the consequences of breaking the rules. It need not be severe. Missing the weekend out or washing the dishes perhaps. And follow through with it. Playing board games or doing a barbeque together is excellent family bonding exercises.

Your children learn from you. Empower them with ethical values like mutual respect and empathy. Teach them through example, by living it yourself. Engage them in social discussions and increasing their awareness. Allow them to make their mistakes and learn from it, nurturing them into mature young adults ready to transform a better tomorrow, a better world.

Filed Under: Brains and Science, Zen Success Tagged With: #parenting, #success

Online Content : Increase Visibility

August 26, 2020 By Geeta

https://simplebusinesshelp.com/blogs/leadership-development/what-s-the-best-way-to-get-people-to-read-your-content-in-a-crowded-online-world?fbclid=IwAR3rIjoYwZ1UIMD0Q-MQdSlHH7q785-IUWxC-wmXEKTEtRsoxIDD08DsaTI

Our content is always close to the heart, and is aimed at sending out a beautiful message to as many people as possible. In a world filled with ready availability of a plethora of content all over the internet, I provide useful insights and tips on helping your content reach as many people as possible, in this article by experts all over the world.

Below excerpts from Barndon’s article…

‘One of the most asked questions I receive is, “What’s the best way to get people to read your content in a crowded online world?” So what I did, is reach out to recent Entreprenuer.com content authors to gain their insight as they’ve already mastered their content marketing strategies.

The insider knowledge each content creator shares is magical. There’s no need to rewrite the book when there’s already a proven strategy that works. Enjoy their answers, and be sure to connect and follow them on their social channels as they can help you improve your authority and influence.’

READ AND LEARN FROM THE EXPERTS…

The simplest way to get people to read your content in a crowded online world is to be really clear on WHO you’re talking to… many books, articles and pieces of content get overlooked because the writer or publisher is trying to talk with too many different audiences and isn’t laser-focused on a particular niche or a segment. If you’re incredibly clear on who you’re talking to, that will lead to much more relevant information that those types of people are likely to seek out. If I feel like you really know and understand me and all of my problems and desires, I’ll pay attention to you and filter out those who don’t speak to me as directly.’ -Brandon Schaefer

My contribution to the article:

When you become vulnerable and show up as your authentic self, sharing your life learnings and experiences as against just posting inspirational quotes and sermons, you are more likely to draw people’s attention over hundreds of thousands of material floating in this crowded online world. People are looking for an emotional connection, wanting to know and see and hear how you live your life, handle your daily stress, what you eat to stay healthy perhaps and what you do to relax.

Filed Under: Zen Success Tagged With: #leadership, #success

Has Lockdown Served as a Time to Reflect?

August 25, 2020 By Geeta

https://www.womenfitness.org/lockdown/?fbclid=IwAR3BD5KmPlRvyiDs7Hhw394Gv4liU2Uhr1EH8YbvzIWJlyQKYj0kVeYOwZQ

My latest article published by Women Fitness Org helps women reflect upon our new reality, and assists them in adjusting to a new way of living, taking great positive steps & finding creative solutions to the global situation.

COVID-19 started as a viral epidemic someplace far away from home, to suddenly change into a global pandemic leading to lockdown. Who would have thought it will not only create a fear of uncertainty and death, but also bring our daily life to a sudden halt, literally? We are under lockdown with no option and no time to prepare.

Work from home has become the norm for many. The first reaction is to panic, with the media providing confusing information about COVID-19, related rising deaths and of course the economic mayhem thereafter.

Learn to live and navigate work and home life in small enclosed space where things we take for granted like food, water and freedom of moment is restricted. As the initial shock wears of, accepting this reality and a new way of living is a great positive step. Acceptance helps our mind face the fear. When the mind shifts gear from fear to a calmer state, it opens creative problem part of the brain to find the next best step to help adapt.

Time to reflect:

  • Focus on the blessings.
  • How often have you had the luxury to have all three meals with your family, to have a relaxing cup of coffee?
  • To see and hear the birds chirp out of your window.
  • To not face the chaos of traffic and save travel time or laugh and play with your children.
  •  Having a chat and celebrating birthdays with friends and relatives even if via Zoom.
  • Pursuing a new hobby or new passion to take that pause to rethink the mindless life you were so used to living.

When the mind shifts gear from fear to a calmer state, it helps open up that creative problem part of the brain. Find the next best step to help adapt. Use the lockdown as an opportunity to reflect on life, to love more, to live more. Contribute more to your family, to the society to lead to success and happiness.

Filed Under: Zen Success Tagged With: #meditation, #womenhood

Your Ultimate Work From Home Guide

August 25, 2020 By Geeta

  1. Set your space: Find an area in your house where you can sit comfortably and focus. Make it separate to your relaxation space. Ideally away from a TV screen or other distractions.
  2. Take Notes: Zoning out? Note-taking keeps your mind engaged
  3. Plan your Day: If you have a list of things to do, break it down into tasks and plan to do the hardest once when you have the most energy.
  4. Lessen Distraction : Harness your imagination and picture that you’re at work and not at home. Lock your phone away if you need to.
  5. Change it up: You probably have a schedule for your work, but if things are becoming difficult to focus on, take a 5-min break and come back to it – maybe listen to some soothing music for a bit.
  6. Take a break – Get up once in a while and have a snack break
  7. Journal it – use a journal to track your progress so you are in control of everything.
  8. Be positive – When things get tough, don’t just push through it. An excited and eager to learn attitude will speed up your progress.

Filed Under: Brains and Science, Zen Success Tagged With: #PROGRESS, #success

Blog 31/52: Marriage is like a Dance

August 25, 2020 By Geeta

Blog 31/52:

Marriage is like a Dance.

A couple’s relationship in a marriage can be compared to the dance Tango. Tango is a partner dance exhibiting passion, grace, romance, power and vulnerability. In life if you want to tango, be ready to navigate with flexibility, to learn when to step back, when to move forward, to learn to move in sync as one. You do not need to like the same food or share the same idea of a holiday. One of you can be laid back and chilled while the other partner has a focused and aggressive approach to life.

Once you allow yourself to be vulnerable, you get to learn another perspective, expand your thoughts, your ideas and expand how you do things and how you feel. As long as both of you have common goals in a relationship, and support each other’s personal growth without feeling intimidated or insecure, cheer the other’s success and be there for them in failure, encouraging them. This is a great way to grow, balancing one’s weakness with the other’s strength. You learn to appreciate the other person, offer a calm presence to your partner when needed, be flexible while not necessarily agreeing on everything, allowing you to feel complete and enjoy the relationship.

Filed Under: Zen Success Tagged With: #couples, #weddingtips

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