The Game of Change

Geeta Ramakrishnan

#mentalhealth

Claim your power on Life.

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Do you struggle with work-life balance?
Are you successful at work and your other priorities like family or social life takes a hit? Or are you the type that gets so engrossed in your day-to-day mundane things, that you are unable to focus on the larger picture.

My Personal Experience…
I can tell you from my own personal experience of being in a family business, of bringing up two children, being a wife to an ambitious husband and… I also want to be very confident and hands on at work and at home. It all sounds good but in practice I realized that the balance was not so easy. Meaning when I used to focus more at work, at business, I realize it was at the cost of my attention at home and to my children. And being a very protective mother, it took a big toll on my emotion. And then when I decided to focus more on my children and my house, I notice that it took a toll at work and on our social life. When I say it took a toll on me, it affected my confidence level and at some point, it started affecting my health because I was feeling stressed and unhappy most of the time. I was living in resentment and started playing the blame game, blaming others for my unhappiness and stress. And believe me when you are in that circle it is very hard to objectively see things in perspective, as I can see it today.

Work, Family or Me, what comes first?
Many times, when I ask people to rate in order of priority: your work, your family and you, the most common answer is work of course because that is your bread and butter and then comes family and then if you have some time let over then it is you. Now look at it this way. If you start from ‘me, then family and then work’ what does that entail. What I mean by that is, if you start with focusing and taking care of yourself first, taking care of your physical fitness, of your healthy eating habits, your mental fitness, so that you feel strong and physically healthy and mentally alert. This way you show up more calm and less stressed and more present at work and to your family. You will find yourself less likely to be snappy, to be irritated and more likely to be pleasant often.

Getting your Best:
This general mood that you wear allows you to get your best done. And it increases your efficiency at whatever you want to do. It is a great idea to start by taking some time off and focus your attention and your thought on what you really want from life, what goals you want to achieve, say one year down the line. Now spread these goals into professional goals, into physical fitness goals, into family goals and some social type of goals. Then work backwards, prioritizing your every-day. You will soon realize that you must let go of certain things because they were not so important now and you have to give more of your energy of other things that work towards you achieving your goals. This will help keep your day more organized and you will be able to handle stress with calmer.

Positive Frame of Mind:
Another great aspect that I realized, something that is very easy to do and yet so important, is being in a positive frame of mind. Now you can ask, if things are going so bad around you, how can you be in a positive frame of mind. Now think about this fact … there is always a 50% chance of things going the right way, so why not give your focus and attention to the positive side of things. For example, if you had to work with the team and you thought the team members were so bad at organizing, instead of getting annoyed at them, try saying this. ‘I like your effort and I like that you’re also enthusiastic and want to make it happen’. You will notice a sudden happy change in mood of the team members. When you start appreciating more, people try to make that extra effort for you.

End Result:
So how does all this go with the Work-life balance. You are in a lighter frame of mind. You can give more of you to the family and to your work, and you are able to achieve more because you have converted that stressed and unhappy self to a very enthusiastic and positive person. This forms a good backbone to a work-life balance. You can life to its fullest, enjoy life, achieve your goals, and ace your professional and personal life and claim your power back from life.

Need more ideas to deal with Stress?
For more inspiration and ideas on handling stress and achieving success in what you seek, you can read through all my blogs.

Interested in taking this Further?
Curious about my coaching methods and easy to follow tips and tricks in managing your stress and achieving success in professional and personal life?
To learn more about Winning the Game of Change, you can schedule a complimentary coaching call from my website : https://coachingwithgeeta.com/book-a-session/

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Health and Wellness of the Body and Mind.

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Wellness Factor in Health:

When we talk of being healthy, it is not just being physical fit and able, it is also about being mentally fit and able to handle the stress and pressures of life. Many of us go through the daily stress of life , hoping to get the best out of life. I have notices for many of us, the prime focus is our profession which then translates to money needed to maintain and manage our standard of living needs and to take care of our family. It can also be the passion and enthusiasm at work that is our driving force. Either ways we cannot escape the stress and pressure around it. Does it affect your physical health? Are you suffering from life style diseases ranging from food intolerances, digestion issues, frequent headaches, even random aches and pains, obesity, PCOD, diabetes and cardiovascular diseases. Are you feeling burnt and constantly feel tired with no energy to handle the stress of life, instead of feeling confident, successful and happy. This you are in the right place…read on…

Physical Fitness:

Having a fit and active body helps by supporting us pursue our goals and follow what is important to us. While we tend to get busy and buried in these goals, which mostly consist of a sedentary and indulgent lifestyle, making time for physical activity is important. Many International organizations recommend about 150 min/ week of moderate cardio exercises for an adult to remain fit. Now we can translate this into 3 one hour cardio activity per week like walking, cycling, swimming or the likes. It can also add up as 5 half hour walks per week, which is achievable. Now you can even split the half hour walk into 3 ten min brisk walk in the day. I am mentioning these recommendations, to help one realize how doable and easily to include these activities are. A walk up and down the house, or the office area, or a park. Leaves hardly any excuse option open.  I set up alarms in my phone to remind me for my 5pm daily walk. I know of some people who keep their gym clothes near their bedside, to make the morning walk more possible.

Mental Fitness:

I have noticed people pay little attention to mental fitness. They think it is natural to feel tired, drained, fatigued and frustrated. They think what choice do they have, as the stress of life is not going to go away.  Having a strong body goes a long way to strengthen our mind, to be able to deal with the stress of life. You will notice that if you feel tired easily, are working long hours, you are more prone to falling sick or catching colds easily.  On the other hand, if you work out regularly and have an active lifestyle, you are less likely to fall sick that often. Similarly being mentally fit to handle all the stress of life, makes you a happy and more confident. And this mental confidence supports your physical wellness, makes is less likely for you to fall sick as often, and not fall prey to lifestyle diseases.

Brain Gym:

I have some across many recommended brain gym and am sharing some of them. They are easy to try fun activities.  Brush your teeth with your non dominant hand for a few days. Cooking and playing the piano are other great brain gym activities, stimulating different sides of your brains. Spending time in relaxed and fun activity, opens up the creative problem solving side of the brain that shuts down under stress. Make time to having more fun, laughing more and taking the break from work once in a while, even if it for an hour or less.

Seeking Help:

Sometimes, when you just feel sad, feel like crying for no apparent reason, feel a sense of hopelessness and lack interest in life, you sleep for really long hours, often feel fatigue, loss of appetite or anything that does not feel normal, these are few signs of mental ill-health. The best option is to seek help. Consult with your doctor or reach out for professional help with a phycologist or a psychiatrist. Seeking help is a sign of strength.

In Conclusion:

Happy body = Happy mind and Happy mind = Happy body. And having a physically and mentally fit body and mind allows us to use our own internal strength in pursuing our goals, our plans, allowing us to write our success stories despite the stress and tough life and surroundings.

Need more ideas to deal with Stress?

For more inspiration and ideas on handling stress and achieving success in what you seek, you can read through all my blogs .

Interested in taking this Further?

Curious about my coaching methods and easy to follow tips and tricks in managing your stress and achieving success in professional and personal life?

To learn more about Winning the Game of Change, you can schedule a complimentary coaching call from my website :   https://coachingwithgeeta.com/book-a-session/

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How COVID got me back in track.

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How COVID got me Back on Track

·     BEING SUPER STRESSED 24/7

I was chatting with my friend a few days back. Now this is the friend who was super busy, super stressed trying to balance her work, her home and her life till last year. Then COVID happened. Like most of us her life just came to a stop. She was not sure of her job. To add to her stress, her teenaged son, like most teenagers, was intelligent with not enough focus to match and had her worried to bits. Her ailing parents moved in as they needed special care during COVID and ofcourse being a single parent with no house help did not help her cause. She felt stuck and insecure and like a victim where everything bad just happens to her. With this mindset, even though she was carrying on, she was finding it difficulty to cope with this stress in life.

·     HOW TO PLAN YOUR DAY

So when I was chatting with her recently, this is how she said she learnt to cope with life. And I want to share it with you all her inspiring transformation journey. One day, she said enough is enough. Playing victim was costing her happiness, her quality of work and life was suffering. And this is what she did.  It was like I was seeing a new version 2.0 of my friend. Now this is how her new schedule panned out. Get up at 5am. Yes, getting organized and taking the trouble to get up earlier is well worth your time she said. Get up at 5am and sit in bed, stretch, smile and then start with a half hour of meditation. Meditation happens even if you sit on your bed, close your eyes, breath in through slowly your nose and breath out through your mouth even more slowly, and watch the traffic of thoughts in your mind. Just watch like in a movie. Don’t wish them away, don’t stay with your thought. Let them come and go. That can be a great way to meditate and start your day with a smile.

·      WHY OUTSOURCE

Then she gets some mandatory house work like cooking, laundry out of the way by outsourcings help. Initially she wanted to be seen as strong and capable and wanted to do all the work herself. The 2.0 version of her decided to invest in outsourcing for these ‘mundane have to get done’ stuff . She gets up early and plans her day, both house work and office work, all in one go. Worth getting up a bit early when u can be organized for the day. It becomes less of a stress.  Planning  helps, she says. Now she also prioritizes. The provision is planned and ordered monthly, the fruits and veges ordered weekly, thanks to the online ordering that she learnt to be adept at. Her office appointments and meetings are also planned weekly. Less stress and more work gets done. And she finds this helps her mental health and is able to devote time to her physical health as well.

·     MAKING ME TIME…

Being a doctor she opted for her clinic time of 10am to 4 pm. This gave her time to get herself groomed. Being well groomed does add to your internal confidence.  She also leaves reminders for her son, which they together co-plan. And he is only too happy to suddenly be treated as a responsible adult. The same son who used to play truant to do his homework and studies, now felt more confident when his mom started treating him with respect, as he put it.

·      HOW TO EFFECTIVELY SAY ‘NO’

She adopted a ‘no work after 5 pm policy’. Back home she spent some relaxed and social time, watching movies, reading and chatting with friends. The last one hour before she retires was left to spending time with her parents, sorting out their medicines, allowing them to vent their frustrations, aches and pains. She learnt the value of saying  an assertive ‘No’. That was one big learning in the step of achieving a holistic health and achieving her goals and being able to ace her professional and personal life.

·     COVID = OPPORTUNITY

To sum it up, she said COVID offered her such a grounding and humbling experience. She realized how important family and friends are and how to prioritize your time, and most important, how to say ‘NO’ to something that interferes with your schedule and peace of mind.

This is coachgeeta signing off.

Need more ideas to deal with Stress?

For more inspiration and ideas on handling stress and achieving success in what you seek, you can read through all my blogs .

Interested in taking this Further?

Curious about my coaching methods and easy to follow tips and tricks in managing your stress and achieving success in professional and personal life?

To learn more about Winning the Game of Change, you can schedule a complimentary coaching call from my website :   https://coachingwithgeeta.com/book-a-session/

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Hurt

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When you feel a person has ‘hurt’ you… don’t immediately re-act. 

Take a pause. Take a deep slow breath. 

Look at the situation as a 3rd person 

You may then see how ‘hurt’ this person is himself. 
He is the Zero person. 
You are his prop, a puppet. 

Is it because you allowed and became easily accessible to be used as a puppet? 

When you see the situation as a 3rd person, as a fly in that wall, see with empathy, see his hurt, your re-action will be different. 

This gives you the ability to control how you react and how not to become the ‘Zero’ person and be a ‘Hero’ of your life.

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Wabi-Sabi

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Word of the week: Wabi-Sabi

This Japanese word is a world view centered on finding beauty in transience and imperfection. It is a way of living that focuses on inner happiness and accepting peacefully the natural cycle of growth and decay. It teaches us to find beauty in the most uncommon and unexpected things and gestures in our day to day life.

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