The Game of Change

Geeta Ramakrishnan

Geeta

#Couplegoals New Year Resolutions 2020

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Sharing an article on Couple Goals, from Wedding Vows December 2019 issue, where I have articulated some thoughts .. and I quote from the magazine…

‘Marriage makes you a better version of yourself, to help you see and to learn from the different views and perspective offered by your spouse. A relationship needs constant fuel to keep it alive and burning. And we have to choose the right fuel. “We live in a world where men and women are both invested in running a professional and family life. Balancing this act leads to stress, lack of time and patience to talk through the problems and arguments in their life. The moment EGO comes into play, thoughts like ‘who is more right or wrong’, and the idea of ‘why should I give up my view over my spouse’ are the ones seeding cracks and breaks in the relationship. If you want a partner to agree to all your views, you might as well marry a clone,” says Geeta Ramakrishnan, Ontological coach and Author.

Understanding a partner with a different view, being curious and having healthy debates, agreeing to disagree, mutual respects are some aspects to invest in for a long happy marriage, she adds.’

 

12 th ME Family Conference

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At the 12 th Middle East Family conference, 9th Dec 2019 ????
Thank you Campden AbuDhabi and Aneel for offering me the role of a moderator for the topic ‘New Ways of Thinking’.
And thank you -Fares Khalid Bugshan, Ghazalah Moloobhoy, Bernhard Gademann and Thomas Zhang for generously sharing your views.
We had refreshing insights on the next gen’s priorities, their focus towards the growth of the family business and how they are able to assertively lay their footprints and balance the changing attitudes between the generations. What resonated with me was the next gen holding on to family values and respect, and the focus and passion for their work to drives them to success.

#GagetFreeHour

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#GadgetFreeHour on 14th November

Let us celebrate Children’s day by taking this pledge as a family to  disconnect with our gadgets and reconnect as family with more conversation, more interaction and more fun.

 

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWvzkcinOb8rFOZwkRti7Ew

The Game of Plan 2020 : Diary/Planner

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The game of Plan 2020: 2 in one Planner and Diary.

Printed in Recycled Paper and comes with its  own jute bag…

Are you Stressed handling the every day challenge?

And you are Overwhelmed with the long list of tasks each day?

And you find no time to do the things that you always wanted and loved to do?

Then this Planner/Diary: ‘The Game of Plan 2020’ is the right one for you.

People spend only  20% of an average day on things that really matter.

‘The Game of Plan 2020′  is an excellent 2 in 1 Planner and Diary .

To Organize your life and be super Efficient

This diary offers you the space to focus on your Dream, your Values.

And helps you set an action plan towards achieving your Goals.

You can define your Personal, Social and Professional Goals for the year.

And key in your Fitness, Diet, Exercise, Expense.

You can convert your ’ToDo’ list into an achievable Action Plan.

You can Prioritize your Tasks and set reminders.

You can track and review your progress regularly.

A great Time Management tool.

Your Goals becomes Measurable and Achievable.

You can also keep Notes of milestones and events

And Notes of Opportunities and Achievements.

You can also maintain your Gratitude Journal.

All these exercise helps you become more Mindful 

And you have a better Control to make your Dreams come true.

Game of Plan App for Android and IOS device

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Game of Change, a two in one Planner and Diary App for Android and IOS devices.

Link given below:

IOS LINK:   https://apps.apple.com/in/app/game-of-plan/id1486157261

Android link:    https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.app.gameofplan

Are you Stressed handling the every day challenge?

And you are Overwhelmed with the long list of tasks each day?

And you find no time to do the things that you always wanted and loved to do?

Then the app ’The Game of Plan’ is the right one for you.

People spend only  20% of an average day on things that really matter.

‘The Game of Plan’ app is an excellent 2 in 1 Planner and Diary app.

To Organize your life and be super Efficient

This app offers you the space to focus on your Dream, your Values.

And helps you set an action plan towards achieving your Goals.

You can define your Personal, Social and Professional Goals for the year.

Track your Fitness, Diet, Exercise, Expense.

You can convert your ’ToDo’ list into an achievable Action Plan.

You can Prioritize your Tasks and set reminders.

You can track and review your progress regularly.

A great Time Management tool.

Your Goals becomes Measurable and Achievable.

You can also keep Notes of milestones and events

And Notes of Opportunities and Achievements.

You can also maintain your Gratitude Journal.

All these exercise helps you become more Mindful 

And you have a better Control to make your Dreams come true.

Press coverage links:
Online: Mumbai News Network
Page: Mumbai News Network
Date: 22nd October 2019   
 
Online: Daily Brunch
Page: Daily Brunch
Date: 24th October 2019 

We don’t have to be Superwomen; Stop pushing yourself too hard. Find the Balance

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Find the link of the online article Nat24, dated 30th Oct 2019

Titled We don’t want to be super women; Stop pushing yourself too hard. Find the Balance.

Link: https://bit.ly/2WpIkR4

Indian women have to juggle multiple roles and as a result, they are often overwhelmed and stressed. But, it is possible to find that balance and lead happier lives.

Today’s world is filled with competition and stress and whether one likes it or not, I believe women work twice as hard as men in many aspects of life, be it professional or personal. Women wear multiple hats, and juggling them successfully is an acquired skill. We are daughters, mothers, professionals, managers, homemakers, dreamers, achievers. We want to be seen as strong and confident in all that we do and that comes with a cost.

It often costs us our self-esteem. Soon, resentment and stress become an accepted way of life. We need to learn to step back, pause and introspect. We need to give ourselves the time and much earned validation to feel confident, which usually takes a beating as we navigate through these multiple roles in life.

Women are conditioned to behave in a certain way

We seem to think that some things are the way of life for us. We have been conditioned over generations with an image of how women should be. When we were young, our mothers unconsciously fed us that our image should be of someone who does not argue, fight or talk too loud.

We grow up accepting a lot of ‘inequality’ and have to work hard and fight against such ‘norms’. Although men are different than women, both men and women are important as we bring our own unique attributes to this world, our society, and our family. We can be emotionally stronger, are more focused, and better managers than men, with greater attention to details. It helps us to be more aware and focus on our uniqueness and derive our strength from it rather than complaining or resenting it.

Is the concept of ‘superwoman’ a myth?

Are we on a quest to be the ‘ideal’ women? How can we be seen as achievers and how can we dream big? Does multitasking overwhelm us instead of boosting effectiveness?

It may be harder for us to climb the corporate ladder perhaps. Can we change the male-dominated trend in this world be being aggressive or by complaining? Maybe we are devoting more time to our family, our children, much more than our spouse perhaps. Are we giving any time or value for ourselves? Are we putting ourselves in constant stress?

Women stop pushing yourself too hard!

As a woman, a wife, a mother, a working woman, we constantly struggle to give our best to the different roles we play in life. We often think we can handle the children better and allow the strain of child-rearing to rest more on our shoulders. We often do not expect, let alone ask for help in household responsibilities.

To be seen as equally efficient in the office we take in more work, more working hours perhaps. If there is physical or emotional abuse, we sometimes accept it due to the lack of a better option. If we choose to fight we can be termed aggressive.

We are under constant stress

While smoking and drinking socially may not be harmful, as an escape from stress, it can be short-lived, increasing addictive dependency. We cope with stress by procrastination, denial or ignoring the problem in hand, playing the blame game: My maid is always late and irresponsible; my office staff never gives the report on time, why can’t my children be more responsible… The list is endless.

We often go into denial mode. Our body needs the rest when the symptoms are shouting out otherwise. It could be the aches and pains which doctors have no remedy for, it could be some gene issues or just that niggling headache. How many times are we in denial when there is physical or emotional abuse? We might want to ignore and wish the problem away, as we have no time or energy to deal with them now. Yes, it takes courage. It takes courage to say ‘No’. Yes, there is fear. But everything we want is often possible if we defeat our fears.

When we recognize the problems and pitfalls, we want to change. But, most of us do not know how to change. Often all it takes is for us to physically take the step back and take a deep breath. Sounds so easy, yet it is powerfully effective. These few seconds are enough to allow our brain to move from its default 24/7 ‘stress’ mode to a ‘creative’ window. All the solutions are within us, right there in the creative side of our brain. This stepping back and observing ourselves is a good first step.

Breathe and let it go: Finding the balance

If we, as women want to give our best in all the multiple roles, we first need to give ourselves ‘me time and space’. If we don’t pace ourselves, take a pause, validate ourselves, how can we add value to others, be it in our personal or professional life?

Take time out for coffee-breaks with friends, a movie perhaps. It is a good platform to share, even bitch a little and laugh our heads off.  Learn to let-go, to forgive. Forgiveness is only complete when we forgive and forget. It lets the big burden off our shoulders. Empathy helps one look at issues from another perspective, while not necessarily agreeing with it. Try to understand a colleague’s issue, sometimes beyond work. It will lead to healthy conversations, even if it is a difficult one.

Looking for and focusing on even the smallest positive aspect of our spouse, our children, and appreciating them is a great step forward to building that solid trust. All these steps help us to define our boundary better and making it easier to say ‘No’. It also helps us become assertive and confident. It boosts our self-esteem, image, and self-worth.

The more we exercise these mindful practices, the more we will access our creative brain and find that perfect balance. It helps us stay away from resentment and stress thereby leading us to happiness. It allows us to blossom into strong, confident women with abundant energy.  And when we share our happiness and nurture others, we also unleash success in whatever we do.

Creative Problem-Solving as a Woman

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Find the link to the online article on Women empowerment, appearing on 24th Oct 2019, in the portal of  ‘Daily Brunch’.

Creative Problem-Solving as a Woman

Link: https://bit.ly/2PkvLVF

It may be debatable, but I believe women have to work twice as hard as men in several aspects of life ranging from personal to professional to sustain in a world full of competition and stress. Women wear multiple hats and have acquired the skill to juggle them successfully.

We are daughters, mothers, professionals, managers, homemakers, dreamers, achievers. We want to be seen as strong and confident in all that we do and that comes at a cost – our self-esteem. Soon, resentment and stress become a part of life. We need to learn to step back, pause and introspect. While navigating through multiple roles in life, our confidence takes a beating because of the stress we are subjected to. Therefore we need to give ourselves time and validation to sustain our confidence level.

So how do we identify a problem when it has become a habit?

Certain facets of our life may not feel right. But we have accepted them as a way of life. We have been conditioned over generations about how a woman should come across as.

When we were young, our mothers unconsciously led us to believe that we must maintain a demure image and not argue, fight or talk too loud. We grow up accepting a lot of ‘inequalities’ or have to work hard and fight against such ‘norms’. Although men have different qualities than women, both important and useful, we bring our own unique attributes to this world, our society, and our family. We can be fantastic nurturers, we are emotionally stronger, we are likely to have better focus, we turn out to be excellent managers and have an edge when it comes to offering greater attention to details. It helps us to be aware, accept as well as focus on our uniqueness and derive our strength from it rather than complaining about or resenting it.

What will help us in our quest to be the ‘ideal’ women and be seen as achievers and allow us to dream big? Does multitasking overwhelm us instead of boosting effectiveness?

Perhaps, it may be harder for us to climb the corporate ladder. Can we change the male-dominated trend in this world be being aggressive or by complaining? Maybe we are devoting more time to our family and our children which is undoubtedly a lot more than our spouses. Are we giving any time or value for ourselves? Are we putting ourselves in constant stress?

As a woman, a wife, a mother and a professional, we constantly struggle to give our best to the different roles we play in life. We often think we can handle the children better and allow the strain of child-rearing to rest longer on our shoulders. We often do not expect, let alone ask for help in household responsibilities. To be seen as equally efficient in office we take up more work and work for longer hours. If there is physical or emotional abuse, we may end up tolerating it due to the lack of a better option. If we choose to fight we could be termed aggressive.

Where is the balance? How do we cope with all this stress?

While smoking and drinking socially may not be harmful, as an escape from stress, it could result in addictions. We cope with stress by procrastinating, denial or ignoring the problem at hand and end up playing blame games. My maid is often late and irresponsible; my office staff never gives the report on time, why can’t my children be more responsible? The list is endless. Our body needs rest when certain symptoms arise. These could be aches and pains for which the doctors have no remedy., It might be genetic or it could be just a niggling headache. How many times are we in denial when there is physical or emotional abuse? We might want to ignore and wish the problem away as we have neither time nor energy to deal with them now. Yes, it takes courage. It takes courage to say ‘No’. Yes, there is fear. But everything we want is often on the other side of fear.

Now that we recognize the problems and pitfalls, we want to change. But most of us do not know how to change. Often, all it takes is physically taking a step back, inhaling a deep breath and exhaling it out slowly. Sounds so easy, doesn’t it? Yet it is potent. These few seconds are enough to allow our brain to move from its default 24/7 ‘stress’ mode to a ‘creative’ window. All the solutions are within us, right there in the creative side of our brain. This method of stepping back and observing ourselves is an effective first step.

What the other tools are to helps us access our creative side, other than a few slow breaths?

If we, as women want to give our best in all the multiple roles, we first need to give ourselves ‘Me Time and Me Space’. If we don’t pace ourselves, take a pause, validate ourselves, how can we add value to others, be it in our personal or professional life? Take time out for coffee-breaks with friends, a movie perhaps. It is a good platform to share, even bitch a little and laugh our heads off. Learn to let go, to forgive. Forgiveness is only complete when we forgive and forget. It lets the big burden off our shoulder. Empathy helps one look at issues from another perspective, while not necessarily agreeing with it. Try to understand a colleague’s issues, sometimes beyond work. It will lead to healthy conversations, even if it is a difficult one. Looking for and focusing on even the smallest positive aspect in our spouse, our children, and appreciating them is a great step forward to building that solid trust. All these steps help us to define our boundary better and making it easier to say ‘No’ and be assertive and confident. It boosts our self-esteem, your image, and self-worth.

The more we exercise these mindful practices, the more we will access our creative brain and find that perfect balance. It helps us be in choice, from resentment and stress to happiness and excitement, seeking opportunities in challenges. It allows us to blossom into strong, confident women with abundant energy, sharing that happiness while nurturing others, while we also unleash success in whatever we want to do.

 

9 Months : Parenting platform : Healthy Body Healthy Mind

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9 Months in association with Firstpost.com AND Momspresso.com is an awesome ‘goto’ parenting platform for all your queries and knowledge, featuring talks about parenting, kids, education, behaviors, physical and mental health, to name a few.

Find attached the link for the  9 Months, Seasons 4, Episode 3: Released in Oct 2019: Healthy body, Healthy Mind:  Hosted by the gorgeous Maria Goretti with panelist Phycologist Riddhi Joshi, Dr Anuja Lumiya, the celebrity guest Suchitra Pillai and myself.

https://www.firstpost.com/shows/9-months/9-months-season-4-mental-physical-development-healthy-body-mind-part-1-7432781.html

 

Episode 1 https://bit.ly/2o3Idhw
Episode 2  https://bit.ly/2o1jtXb 

Promo Link: https://bit.ly/2o5p6n4

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Episode is on Voot

Link: https://www.voot.com/shows/9-months-s04/0/9-months-s04-season-04-episode-03-01/854605

 

https://www.voot.com/shows/9-months-s04/854629/healthy-body-&-mind/854603